Finally, it happened. You’ve met the ideal man or woman of your dreams that you can’t imagine. Your overwhelmed feelings and you feel like you’re walking on thin air, day dreaming and can’t stop smiling. You’ve got butterflies in your stomach and confidence in your heart. But then your mind takes over and you feel uncertainty and misperception. What if they don’t feel the same way? What if the love you feel is all in your head?
The good news is that there is an easy well to tell if you’re really with a great partner. All you have to do is refer to my my list of relationship keywords. Here are the words you need to know to see if you have the real thing!
Honesty, Fidelity and Trust
Everyone knows a good relationship needs honesty, fidelity and trust. We all want a truthful partner, who is faithful to us and trustworthy. However, these are not the only elements that make a relationship great or help it move forward. Here is what else your relationship needs.
You wouldn’t know there were problems in your relationship unless your partner communicated them to you. And you wouldn’t be able to fix those problems if you and your partner didn’t communicate your feelings to each other. And if you make each other happy, you need to communicate that. Communication between you should be free and easy.
There is nothing worse than feeling unappreciated by your significant other. When something nice is done, it should be acknowledged. Don’t take each other for granted. There are many ways to show appreciation, from the minor to the grand.
Not everyone feels comfortable expressing their emotions, but expression is an important part of communication, so you both need to do it in order for your relationship to thrive. If one of you is closed off emotionally, it would feel like that person lacks emotion. Be sure to express yourselves, no matter how shy or awkward it makes you feel.
Accept each other, warts and all. After all, you both fell in love with the warts, didn’t you? Don’t try to fix what’s not really broken. We all have our foibles, so no one is perfect.
You’re both dealing with a person who has different ways of doing things. You aren’t always going to get everything right the first time and certainly not on a particular schedule, so have patience.
Everyone makes mistakes, and many of those mistakes are forgivable, so learn to forgive each other and don’t hold grudges. You both make mistakes.
If your partner is suffering, do you have compassion for them? Do you know when to show them a bit of tenderness? Are they compassionate with you?
You can’t be with someone you don’t respect. Your partner is your equal, so you have to be fine with the choices they make, the career they have—really who they are. If you don’t respect them, you can’t really love them. And if they don’t respect you they can’t really love your either.
Does your partner have your attention? Are they a priority? Do they make you a priority too? The little things often mean the most, whether it’s a hug that lasts more than a few seconds, or a lingering kiss goodnight.
Love is about two people who walked separate pathways for a while until they joined together as one. These keywords are meant to be a reference for you to hold up each of your romantic relationships to. If you don’t have these basics, you should be concerned. If you do have them (and more), you have the makings of a wonderful relationship.
Sharing love is the most precious thing you can give and receive, so enjoy every bit of it.